Here’s your Quiz Results!

Your Dating DIAGNOSIS is in and it’s official you are…

 THE AVOIDER 

You’ve done such a great job of convincing yourself it’s all completely pointless that it’s now ingrained into you and part of your Dating DNA.

As the name suggests, you’ve been avoiding putting yourself out there in the dating world because the whole thing feels utterly overwhelming. You’re not sure where to start and just don’t have the time or energy for the inevitable rejection that’s bound to happen.

And let’s not forget that voice in your head constantly reminding you that you’ll only mess it all up anyway.

Understanding your Dating DNA and your own unique natural wiring are the pieces of the puzzle that will allow you to stop sabotaging your relationships. 

Wave goodbye to those dating disappointments once and for all.

AT A QUICK GLANCE YOUR RESULTS TELL ME…

Your frustration around dating is dictating your future. Every time you utter those words “it’s hopeless and I’ll only mess it all up anyway” you’re allowing yourself to move further and further away from the relationship you’re craving.

 Avoidance is not the cure,
it's the cause. 

By not putting yourself out there, you’re taking away your chance to be really fulfilled in every aspect of your life and letting yourself just settle. And trust me, you deserve so much more than that. Hiding from love because you’re not sure where to start or afraid of rejection is an excuse. Finding love is just like achieving any other goal…. it needs a well thought out plan and strategy.

Bottom line: it’s all about priorities. In the same way you’d schedule & map out your work days you need to do the same for your dating and personal life. Make yourself available, open and ready to connect with someone new coming into your life.

 

Some Inner Monologues which might sound familiar….

What happens if it all goes completely wrong?

It's hopeless I'll never have the relationship I want

I'm too embarrassed to put myself out there again

I don't know what I'm doing so what's the point?

I don't want to feel completely exposed and vulnerable

What happens if it all goes completely wrong?

AVOIDANCE IS THE SILENT SABOTEUR YOU’RE ADDICTED TO & IT’S TIME TO CHANGE THE NARRATIVE

Repeat daily and pin to a place where it will be a constant reminder….

I will stop fretting over what’s going to happen

I am ready to leave my comfort zone to find my dream partner

I am letting go of any fears of failure in finding the right person

I’m open to putting an action plan in place and making it happen

The right person will be worth the risk

Hitting the relationship reset button is similar to rebooting your computer - except we’re resetting your mindset instead of your hard drive.

It’s time to hit reset on your subconscious beliefs and visualize a very different space.

Imagine your mind as a blank canvas telling a brand new story…

A story which allows you to:

...let go of your avoidance tactics around love

...be open to being loved and changing your relationship status

...execute a plan to take action with confidence

...stop the silent saboteur holding you back

…break up with your Martyr Mindset® and flirt with idea of love

But first, we need to crack the code that has you single and stuck

And that starts with reframing your belief system around Relationships….the one that has such a big hold on your mindset.

So we’re going back to where it all started…

Because for most of us, our deepest thoughts, feelings and actions around dating or relationships started when we were young.

Those deep rooted beliefs from fairytale stories that all have the same ending – ’and they lived happily ever after’ – place unrealistic expectations on us as adults.

They’re embedded in our subconscious from a very young age. They leave us seeking perfectionism in relationships, expecting romance to be like it is in the fairytales. And we end up disappointed when the reality is completely different.

Fast forward to being an adult and now the picture has changed. We’re questioning what went wrong and why hasn’t it happened for me yet? Afterall, our parents before us managed it, our friends make it look effortless and everyone around us seems to have a relationship with longevity.

So you ask yourself why not me? I did everything I was supposed to do. I worked hard at school, established a great career with prospects and I followed ALL the rules. 

Why then don’t I have the perfect relationship?
What’s wrong with me?
How will I get someone to just ‘choose me’?
Do I really have to resort to going online?

Ok I get it…I mean it isn’t exactly the romantic story you had in mind telling people you swiped right instead of left.

And let’s not get started on finding a plus one to fill in the gap so you don’t have to attend things on your own.

It all starts to feel like a domino effect with first one thing then another spiraling out of control.

But let me ask you a question, how on earth do you expect to meet anyone when you never make the effort to go anywhere or allow yourself to enjoy a social life?

When was the last time you went to the theater, visited a museum, or had dinner out at your favorite restaurant? When did you last indulge in a hobby or pastime you love?

And finally, when did you stop being you and start becoming that person who lives to work instead of works to live? The person that’s so busy doing ‘all the things’ that they’ve sacrificed their own happiness.

That perfect relationship you’re looking for isn’t going to jump out of your mailbox all neatly tied with a bow. You have to dress up and show up!

Stop making excuses. It doesn’t matter if you’re tired or feel overworked. Noone will judge you if you’re a little bit shy.

So how do we reframe our mindset?

I have a few ideas on this and the first is called Attract & Subtract.

In the same way as you aren’t the right person for every job, you’re also not the right person for every relationship.

It’s called Attract & Subtract….

Attract those that are aligned with your values and subtract those that aren’t. 

By allowing yourself to say ‘no’ to the wrong ones you’re giving yourself space to say ‘yes’ to the right ones. 

Detach yourself from the emotions surrounding saying ‘no’ and remind yourself of the possibilities you’re creating by saying ‘yes’.

It’s also time to ditch to the Martyr MindsetⓇ
which crops up in nearly EVERY dating diagnosis.

Simply put, you’re the person who can be relied upon to do everything. You’re constantly giving, always the first to offer help and the one people call when they need something done.

The prognosis for this dating diagnosis is burnout, unfulfillment and resentment at being taken for granted.

You’re doing everything for everyone but forgetting about YOU.

Give yourself ‘permission to prepare‘. Choose yourself, commit to what you want and allow yourself to prepare for the vision you have for your own future.

Ready?

Let me introduce you to….the SOAR Success Formula your personalized Dating Diagnosis for a serious relationship

STOP – first things first, we need to STOP dreaming and start doing. The romantic story and happy ending you dream about is exactly that, a dream. Prince Charming won’t bump into you in the grocery store or leave his number on your windshield. Be realistic with your expectations, STOP avoiding the dating world and get ready to put your fabulous self out there for all to see.

OVERHAUL – admit that your personal life is in need of an OVERHAUL. Your priorities around dating won’t lead to the results you desire. In fact, someone meeting you for the first time might wonder if they’re going to be a priority in your life or always be in the background.

An OVERHAUL of your routine, schedule, communication and value in and out of the office should be top of your ‘To Do List’. And remember, you can’t find the love you don’t make time for.

ASSESS – it’s time to ASSESS your relationship goals. Vague goals don’t cut it. Treat this like you would a job search. Everything you do from your resume to your interview outfit is carefully chosen to achieve the goal of getting a job, right?

Do the same with your relationship search and ASSESS those goals. You can’t prepare and take action without clearly defined goals.

And if it’s an important goal, you declare it and prepare! My Mantra when he seemed impossible to find: If I Exist, He ExistsTM!

RESET – and now we push the RESET button. No more waiting, and waiting, and waiting. Newsflash: waiting doesn’t work. I wrote an algorithm (on real notebook paper) for love, and have an amazing husband.

I want to share it with you, but let’s get in the right frame of mind first.
Seriously, even Beyoncé rehearsed for 8 months to get ready for Coachella. If you’re going to headline, you need to step out confidently and own that dating stage.

Let’s SOAR – Stop – Overhaul – Assess – Reset!

WONDERING WHO THE PERSON BEHIND YOUR DATING DIAGNOSIS IS?...

Meet Dr. Toni A. Haley,
(a.k.a. Dr. Toni®)

Bestselling author, Physician and certified executive coach for high performing women who want to build their ideal career and relationships.

Sought after by clients for her 25 years of experience in finance, healthcare and wellness, her proven strategies have helped hundreds of women break through personal and professional barriers, such as Perfectionism, Martyr Mindset®, and Imposter Syndrome.

Hey, Dr Toni here! Like so many of us, I’ve been on a dating journey – one that saw me marry for potential at age 25, following the rules laid out for me, listening to the advice of others, and doing everything ‘right’. 

But even after all of that, it still ended in disappointment and divorce. 

Why? Because I married a ‘resumé guy’ instead of the right guy, the guy that ‘got’ me, wanted the same things as me and really supported and championed me. 

Remember, just because he looks good on paper, ticks all the boxes and sounds like ‘the one’, doesn’t mean he’s the ‘right one’ for YOU.

I knew if I wanted things to change, I had to make that change myself which is when I came up with my mantra – If I exist, he exists™️”! 

I’m now happily married to the right guy for me.

Here’s the tough truth — YOU have the power to turn it around. Yes, you. You can do it just like I did. My mission is to give you the tools to help you do just that starting right now — with your mindset. 

Sound good?! 

This is just the start. I’m here to give you actionable steps so you can join the winner’s circle of love and find the right guy, too.

DATING MASTERY

Being single is tough.
Dating can be stressful.
You deserve a good relationship.

What if I could help you to stop sabotaging your relationships and crack the single & stuck code.

Imagine being able to fast-track YOUR Dating Success and get the relationship and life you’ve been dreaming of.

Let me ask you a question, what if there was a system for online dating success?

One that allows you to understand your own unique Dating DNA whilst waving goodbye to those dating disappointments once and for all.

….let me introduce you to the

D.A.T.E.S. System for Dating Mastery

The Success Formula for a serious relationship using methodology, process and techniques designed to help women acquire a life partner.

You’ll learn how to hit the Relationship Reset button allowing you to….

...be open to being loved and changing your relationship status

...enjoy a balanced relationship where you're not the only giver

...let go of that feeling of responsibility around everyone else's problems

...abandon procrastination and take purposeful action

…break up with your Martyr Mindset® and flirt with idea of love

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IF I EXIST, HE/SHE EXISTS™